Thursday, October 30, 2014

I want a righteous spouse but…



Source: http://blog.islamiconlineuniversity.com/i-want-a-righteous-spouse-but/

-related” statuses, comments and articles get maximum number of  on the  social networking sites these days, like Facebook, Twitter, Google plus and others.
Maybe this is because everyone wants to take out their frustrations, share their observations and their acceptance or rejection on this universally acknowledged and interesting topic. In this battle, I have seen some people becoming so sentimental that they vomit out their own personal encounters, love affairs, and ever- lasting crushes along with potential parties’ names in public!
Indeed, marriage is a very vast and an extremely crucial subject, which can be seen from both the aspects: aspect of seriousness and aspect of fun. It totally depends on the individual’s age, maturity and attitude towards life.
“I want a righteous  but …”, is a common phase  in the lives of the practicing Muslim youth. This dilemma is something we hear all around us in our religious circles & social gatherings.
Where, on one hand, all the religiously inclined men know and even understand the most famous hadith:
“A woman is married for four reasons: her wealth, her nobility, her beauty and her piety. Choose the pious one and be successful.” (Bukharee)
but very few are actually willing to act on it.
Some of my practicing friends are waiting to bump into some sort of Cinderella in abaya. This made me realize no matter how religious men look, very less people are actually willing to sacrifice when it comes to beauty and age, though they might sacrifice on piety, wealth and nobility.
This trend explicitly show us the true version of inner-us . All of us hear and talk about all this haadith all the time, but do we really mean it? Similarly, rejections are being made under the labels of “kuff” (compatibility), but the real reason for rejection is something else. Or even if it is kuff, what really constitutes (Kuff) equivalency in our eyes, this is a matter of debate.
Various scholars have done their own Ijtihad as to what factors are involved when it comes to Kuff. There are variety of opinions, but the strongest and the most sound opinion – and the one used by  Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen – is that Kuff is in reference to religious commitment only.  [Read more : http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/84306]
The mentality of the female gender in our society is no different; they too do the same. Though they might hold graduation in fiqh, maintain proper hijab and say along with their parents , “we want a righteous spouse…” very few are bold enough to act on what is being said.  It is evident that when someone from the low class family (but very pious) approaches them, suddenly many more things get added up in their list. They too know the famous hadith (by heart!):
“If a man whose practice of deen (religion) satisfies you, asks for your in marriage, you should marry them; otherwise, there’ll be corruption on earth.”(at-Tirmidhee)
but they seldom act upon it.
Women prefer to marry guys from the First World countries with multiple high degrees, a Ferrari and possessing a great amount of bank balance. Is it always a bad thing? No. But if it makes you turn away from multiple good proposals and if it is your only criteria and your first priority, then yes, you might have a . Only when the rejecters fail to find their perfect package, they regret rejecting the earlier ones who had proposed them modestly through their parents.
Musa (alayhis salam) would have never married the daughter of the man who gave him shelter, if his father in-law’s conditions were based on material possession like today. At that time, he had no club memberships, money, cars or other luxurious items, he wasn’t even given Prophet hood yet! He was a modest man and a righteous spouse. That was all he had.  But for the wise, that’s the true wealth, the real criteria.
When it comes to delayed marriages and marriage-related sufferings, many a times, the fault lies within us; our -world attitude and high standards.
When it comes to delayed marriages and marriage-related sufferings, many a times, the fault lies within us; our fantasy-world attitude and high standards. The truth is that  is still somewhere in our minds and hearts. It seems not to go away despite the fact that we hear and know all these sayings and despite the fact we know the stories of all the companions and their criteria for picking up spouses.
Ask yourself, if today, a proposal comes your way, which looks religiously promising but, perhaps, struggling in worldly affairs, would you accept or walk away? It is all a matter of priorities.


Sunday, October 26, 2014

Monday, October 20, 2014

Does my eyebrow look too square with this hijab?

Salam wa leykum dear followers and visitors of this blog, I know is being a while since my last post, the true is that I have been very busy these past months Alhamdulillah.

Few days ago I found this picture on my news feed, I have to confess that living in Egypt for few years now this kind of things don't amuses me anymore, is very common now days to find this kind of "work" by auto called "makeup artists" and what's even worst is to see how people accept and also congratulate them for their good job. Little they know about good technique and makeup style.




Here it is, judge by yourself, it seems that the most big and square your eyebrows looks is the best Whether you have the thickest brows in the world or the thinnest, filling them in with a little or a lot of product is beneficial to everyone. Eyebrows are so important because they frame our face, and can ultimately change up our whole look. If you’re ever looking tired, throwing a little product in your brows is one of the best, and easiest ways to wake your face up,BUT DON'T MAKE THEM LOOK TOO FAKE!




Another MUA, another big square eyebrow, which makes me wonder could this be a new trend?
Hope it is not, seriously.

Muslims, are ordered not to trim the eyebrows, I personally prefer natural brows, the best advice to achieve natural brows is to use a light hand. When creating natural brows, we’re just emphasizing what we’ve already got, not completely re-modeling it. Powder products are perfect for creating a natural brow because they’re soft enough to not look harsh, but still pigmented enough to get the job done.

Don't let yourself be fooled by not professional people that will not highlight the best of you and instead will make you look ridiculous,try a DIY make up routine and good luck!


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